Screening is Mandatory For a Great Companionship Experience

I wanted to revisit screening because, frankly, I seem to be receiving an uptick in inquiries that balk at my screening requirements. Based on recent Twitter discourse, I can confidently say mine isn’t the only companion inbox receiving such emails. The biggest roadblock most of these would be clients cite is giving me their legal name or showing ID. They think it perfectly reasonable for their “privacy” to take precedence over my safety. I want to talk about that word, safety. It’s one us sex workers use often in regards to screening, but I don’t know that we have done the best job in conveying everything it means.

Obviously, the first and biggest reason for screening is doing our best to ascertain that we come home physically and mentally in one piece. This kind of safety is paramount, and I am sure all clients with good intent understand this. Especially with The Long Island serial killer suspect back in the news, sex work carries significant risk and screening, at its core, is designed to mitigate that risk as much as possible. But I want to expand on that concept of safety, because you know what? Safety is the foundation for intimacy .

Let me say that again: safety is the foundation for intimacy.

Ultimately, hiring a professional companion is a way to short circuit intimacy, and if you desire a truly meaningful experience, we need to feel safe with you. Screening is about more than providing the information asked for, it’s about communicating from your introduction email forward that you value making me feel safe in your presence. Clients, or would be clients who attempt to circumvent part or all of my requirements are communicating that they do not value making me feel safe. That kills the magic, the building of intimacy that can only happen on a foundation of safety.

And what can happen if, throughout the booking process, you communicate through your words and actions that you respect and value me and my policies? When we finally meet, I am not thinking about my safety, I am thinking about how to create a meaningful connection and beautiful experience with you. And isn’t that what you are after? I’ve said many times, respecting the polices and boundaries set forth by the companion means that we can focus on making a genuine connection and hopefully building a relationship within those boundaries. And that, my friend, is where the true magic of companionship lies. So send me an email with all your screening information and I’ll show up ready to create some magic.

Affectionately,

Ava